I’m not mad. I’m not rude, stuck up or aloof. I’m an introvert and it’s taken me years to admit, understand, accept and even embrace it. Why? Maybe because we all have a vision of how we want to be perceived, be it personable, charismatic or down-to-earth and that can be in stark contrast with who we are.
Or that the world is more accepting of and rewarding to the outgoing, strongly voiced, opinion leaders, characteristics often associated with extroverts.
Or perhaps it’s the misconception that introverts don’t like people. We do! Just not crowds. Or strangers. Or situations that thrust us into the center of attention.
It’s not an ailment.
It’s not a hindrance.
It’s the quiet voices but observant minds that go against the grain of our 24/7 noisy society.
In no particular order and by no means as an authority on the subject here are some of my favorite quotes and personal reflections on being an introvert.
We love the idea of making plans. But are just as happy when they fall through.
We’re not anti-social but selectively social. We like going out but in controlled measured increments. If we make plans we need to know where we’re going and who will be there. We need to mentally prepare. And if the plans fall through at the last minute we may do a bit of a happy dance but it’s nothing personal.
“Introverts crave meaning so party chitchat feels like sandpaper to our psyche.” ~ Diane Cameron
We actually like getting to know people on a deeper, more thoughtful level. We just hate starting conversations or engaging in small talk. If we can get past the barrier of idle chitchat and find depth, we can talk about the meaning of life for hours. We reserve our time, energy and spirit for those with whom we find a sincere connection.
“For introverts, to be alone with our thoughts is as restorative as sleeping, as nourishing as eating.” ~ Jonathan Rauch
Extroverts get energized being around people. Introverts need silence and solitude to recharge. Day-to-day interactions deplete our battery. We need time to center, recalibrate and find clarity. Our best thinking is often done when we’re alone with our thoughts, with minimal distractions.
“That’s the thing about introverts. We wear our chaos on the inside where no one can see it.” ~ Michaela Chung, The Irresistible Introvert
Periodically I’ll catch my husband laughing at me out of the corner of my eye. Often my facial expressions betray the chatter in my mind and he’s witnessed my internal conversation. Introverts process and over process information. We absorb, analyze and flip thoughts in all directions. It’s exhausting. We’re quiet on the outside. Loud on the inside.
“I have to be alone very often. I’d be quite happy if I spent from Saturday night until Monday morning alone in my apartment. That’s how I refuel.” ~ Audrey Hepburn
I take great comfort in knowing that Audrey Hepburn was an introvert. Enough said.
“Introverts are awesome people. They just keep it to themselves.” ~ unknown
I’m not boring or shy.
I’m an introvert.
We’re deep thinkers
… creative dreamers
… sensitive feelers
… and maybe even writers 🙂